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Why You Should Never be Afraid to Make Changes

I am known as someone who changes their mind a lot. I changed courses in college, I changed my mind with careers and now I'm changing courses at university.

And I don't regret any of it.

I am someone who is scared of what people think of me, I'll admit that. I'm scared because I know that there are people out there who would love to see me fail. I'm scared because I have seen friends turn against me because I have simply changed my mind on something. But honestly, what kind of friends are they if they can't be supportive of you?

I am not a bad person for deciding to change something that is making me so unhappy. I am not a failure for choosing a different path to take. I am doing what's right for me and you should always do what's right for you, no matter what anyone says.

If I never changed my mind, then I would be stuck doing something that I was unhappy with and that was making me miserable. I strongly believe that changing your mind and then actively doing something productive about it is very healthy. If you stick at something that you hate, then your heart just won't be into it and it will become a complete waste of your time. You'll be stuck in a place that you don't want to be in. You deserve to be doing something that you're passionate about. Something that makes you feel fulfilled and happy. Something that makes you excited to get out of bed in the morning for. Sometimes you might have to struggle; sometimes you have to change your mind to get you to where you want to be.

Changing your mind is a good thing and making mistakes is a good thing because you learn what you truly want out of life. Even if you go through something that you hate, you come out the other side feeling optimistic because you know that you want better and you know how to achieve it. You discover what you want and how you can improve things for yourself. You grow from it and become a bigger person because of it.

And so, the most important reason you should never be afraid to make changes? Because you are not obliged to live a life you don't want. You are not obliged to live a life that makes you feel unhappy. You are not obliged to make yourself miserable, just to keep everyone around you satisfied.

There is always going to be judgement from someone. There is always going to be someone who thinks they know best, but honestly, only you know best.

You might lose some friends along the way, but not everyone you lose is a loss. You will meet new people, make new friends, go on new and exciting adventures. You will find your passion.

Stop caring about what other people think, they don't matter. It's YOUR life and only YOU can decide what to do with it.

Don't be afraid to make that jump, whatever that is. You do what you have to do.

Until the next time,
Char.
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