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Living with Vaginismus

Having sex for the first time is always nerve-wrecking. As a young girl, I remember having high hopes for my first time, thinking it would be all fireworks. I also had my fears, of course. Visions of excruciating pain and pools of blood flashed in my mind. And what if he thinks I'm fat? Or have I shaved enough? The prospects of losing my virginity wasn't the most exciting time of my life. Throw vaginismus into the mix and you're in for one hell of a ride. No pun intended. Genitals and Starbucks Despite having it since I became sexually active at 17, I didn't know exactly what Vaginismus was until I started university at the age of 19. Nor had I heard of anyone else who had it. I thought I was alone with this silent torment that no one else understood.     It was the Autumn of 2016, the first time I ever saw the leaves fall in Bristol and felt the fresh excitement and nervousness of living away from my mum. I was sat in Starbucks with my close friend, Al...

Typical Straight Girl Pretending They're Bisexual

Cornwall Pride was amazing. As a bi-sexual woman, I don't get too involved in the LGBT+ community due to how rife the bi-phobia is. I feel like I have to fight to prove myself. Although I enjoyed Pride and loved seeing everyone feel so happy and accepting... I still couldn't escape the annoying idiots who think they know more about my sexuality than I do. "Typical straight girl, pretending they're bi." These are the actual words that came out of the mouth of someone walking in the parade. You cannot walk in a pride parade and then have that absolute bullshit come out of your mouth. It comes as a huge slap in the face because I feel like I'm always trying so hard to "prove" that I am actually bisexual. Just because I'm in a relationship with a male - doesn't mean I'm straight. The clue is in the label: we are attracted to two genders. It just happens that I've fallen in love with a man. Coming out as bisexual was a lot harder for m...